Online dating can be a lot of fun but when it doesn’t work for you, it can be just as frustrating too! Keep reading to see if you’re making one of these common mistakes of online dating.
- Waiting Around
Online dating is all about action. Don’t sign up on an online dating site and then expect other people to get in touch with you constantly. There are two reasons people do this – they are too shy or they think they’re too good to initiate first contact. Neither is going to work well. You have to be out there and look for people too.
- Imagining Yourself an Instant Hit
This is just like waiting around, except it goes one step further. You may be the next Brad Pitt but if your ego is bigger than your brain, you’re not going to get much attention for too long. You may be great, but others on the site may be greater. Some of you might actively pursue someone instead of waiting around, but once you’ve got their attention, all you do is tell them about how wonderful you are! That’s really NOT going to work. People usually expect to be told why you’re interested in them, not why they should be interested in you!.
- Expecting to Meet ‘The One’
Online dating isn’t a magical world. Sure thousands have found partners online but expecting to immediately meet your life partner can be a little too much. Not only will it come across as desperate to the other person, but you will also be disappointed because not everyone will live up to your expectations. Lower your expectations, and enjoy dating. You will meet the right person sooner or later.
- Taking Rejection Personally
Not receiving enough replies to your emails? Don’t stress over it. It’s nothing personal. Think about it, when you don’t reply to emails people send you, it’s just that you’re not interested – you’re not deliberately trying to hurt someone. So it’s the same for you. If you think you’re doing something wrong, fix it and move on. Don’t give up and keep looking.
- Pushing for a Meeting
Don’t keep insisting on meeting someone. Every person has a different level of comfort. Some may want to meet after just talking to you a couple of times while others will prefer to wait. Respect what the other person wants and meet only when both of you are comfortable. Also, getting to know someone a little, before going out with them could result in a much better first date.
- Photo Blunders
Having a good photo on your online dating photo is essential. No photos can put people off. Bad photos can give the wrong impression about you. For more information, view our tips for your Online Dating Profile Photo
- Lack of Effort in Communication
Good communication is absolutely essential. Just clicking on ‘Show Interest’ and expecting them to get in touch with you is just lazy. Show interest and also send them a short email. Emails should also be written well. One liners and long boring form letters are both openly inviting the receiver to delete them. Visit this post for advice on winning over that BBW Lady with an email.
Have a look at this video for a list of Top 10 Mistakes Men Make. A lot of it is actually true for both men and women..
- Not Asking Enough Questions
Ask enough questions so you can get to know them better. If they’re considerate enough, they will ask questions too and you’ll have some pretty great conversations too. Most people tend to just go on talking about themselves in an effort to prove why they’re so perfect for the other person. But that just comes across as selfish and you don’t really end up knowing much about them. Also, on the other hand, don’t over do it. You’re not interviewing them for a job and neither are you interrogating them in prison – so relax!
- Not Being Yourself
Being yourself is easier online so take full advantage of that. Lying is a big no-no because you’re simply leading the other person on and making them believe things about you that aren’t true. If they don’t like you for who you are, too bad for them. It doesn’t mean you have to change.
- Generalizing and Stereotyping
First of all, read the profile. The whole point of the profile is so you know a little about the person before trying to get in touch with them. Just because someone is based in Japan doesn’t mean they can’t speak English. If you’d looked a little closely, you would’ve noticed they answered ‘Fluent’ next to the ‘English Ability’ field. This is just one example of generalizing and stereotyping people even before you know them. Also, don’t imagine all women on online dating sites are looking for a sugar daddy. Some of them might be way more successful than you; they’re just looking for love.
Bonus Tip – Thinking You’re Weird
Even though online dating is so popular, a lot of people will not admit to the fact they’re looking for someone online because they worry about appearing desperate or weird. But really, there’s nothing wrong with finding someone online. All you’re doing is taking an active approach towards dating and taking time to invest in yourself. There are lots of normal people on online dating sites, so stop wasting time worrying about being weird and spend some time finding a date instead!
If you would like to share any tips with us, we’d love to hear from you. Happy dating and most importantly, have fun!
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