Okay…so I was having a look around on some men’s advice sites and I noticed, some of the most popular articles on these sites are about what women want to hear from men. So apparently the Top 5 things we want to hear are:
- You’re Beautiful
The Advice: Tell a girl she’s beautiful. But instead of making generic comments, appreciate something in particular. So whether it’s her new hairstyle, her cute freckles or her long legs – compliment her beauty by noticing special things about her.
What We Think: Yes, we love it when a man calls us beautiful and the advice is good. But we also hate it if you say it all the time and we know you’re just doing it as a routine. We have extra sensory perception that picks up on fake compliments pretty well.
- You’re Right
The Advice: In the event of an argument, tell the woman she’s right and the fight will blow over.
What We Think: Yes, telling us we’re right is definitely up there on the list but again; don’t tell us we’re right if you don’t really mean it. We’re not slave drivers you know…we don’t just want you to give up on an argument and tell us we’re right. We appreciate the fighting spirit…once in a while.
- You’re Really Smart
The Advice: Women like being told they’re smart and you’re impressed by their intelligence.
What We Think: We are smart, and hate it when guys think “You’re so smart” is a compliment. We’d appreciate it more if you complimented us when you were genuinely impressed by something we did (like bagging that promotion at work!). Also, sometimes, you can appreciate us by just acknowledging something that goes unnoticed. So telling us how much you appreciate us doing your laundry means way more than “You’re so smart for being able to change the light bulb all by yourself”.
- Have You Lost Weight?
The Advice: Size 2 or 22, all women worry about looking fat in their jeans, so every once in a while drop this line in as a compliment.
What We Think: This is dangerous territory. It’s true we all worry about how we look, but saying “Have you lost weight?” can back backfire as a compliment. We might end up thinking you think we’re fat and want us to lose weight or something along those lines. I’m not sure what else to say guys, this is one even we haven’t figured out yet. But that doesn’t let you off the hook. Remember what Leslie Mann said… “When we ask you how our asses look in a particular pair of jeans, you should always be brutally honest and completely positive at the same time. How you accomplish this is up to you.”
- I Love You
The Advice: Women love hearing it, so say it.
What We Think: Yes, we love hearing it…but only when we’re in love with you too. If we’ve just been on two dates and you say “I love you” we know it’s only to get into our pants. If not, you’re a psychopath and we’re already running. Say it only when you genuinely mean it.
You’ve got some of the basics right guys…you just need to remember, we are complicated creatures so basic rules might not always work with us. We might not always know what we really want, but the secret to getting it right 90% of the time is to be genuine.
What do you think ladies? Can we give the men any more advice on what we really like to hear from them?
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