How To Ask A Guy Out

Very controversial date question: Is it okay for a woman to ask a man out?

My answer? Yes. If you’re interested and he’s not making any moves, its stupid to be waiting a lifetime isn’t it?

Here are some tips to help you:

• Gauge Him

Sometimes the thing we call “a woman’s intuition” can be really useful in a situation like this. Take a good look at your potential date and try to figure out the likelihood of him being interested in you. This is usually easier if the guy you’re interested in is a friend or someone you see on a regular basis. Also, some guys can get offended if a girl asks them out but there’s no way of knowing this unless you’ve known the guy for some time. 

• The Friend Crush

So you wake up one day and realize you have a crush on your friend and now there’s no way you can go another day without asking him out. Sure, do it. It would be good to do the gauging I’ve suggested above. Also, it’s possible it might be a surprise for him so give him time to process it.

• Confidence

It’s always about the confidence isn’t it? So when you’re asking a guy out, make sure you do it confidently. Even if you’re not confident, adopt body language that is. Confidence is attractive but don’t overdo it or you could come off as aggressive.

• Body Language

Your body language will give away a lot so make sure you’re sending out the right signals. Some basic tips would be to stand up/sit up straight, smile, maintain eye contact etc. Also, if you’d like to prepare the ground a little before you ask him out, some common ways of showing your interest would be to lean in a little when you talk to him, touch him playfully etc. 

• Pick The Right Time

Ask the guy out at a time that’s comfortable for you and for him. For example, if he’s with a group of friends, approaching him can be intimidating for you. At the same time, a guy might get embarrassed and say no just because his friends are there and social customs still say a guy must ask a girl out. It’s best to approach a guy when he’s alone, and do it without getting a friend to tag along with you!

• Still Nervous?

Okay so you manage to approach the guy but after some conversation and a bit of flirting, you still don’t manage to ask him out. Don’t worry, all’s not lost. You’ve done well by approaching him but if you’d rather not ask him out right away, ask for his number instead. Call him and you can always make plans later.

• Handling Rejection

If he says no, just accept it and move on. There are many more guys waiting and at least you had the confidence to ask him out. Under no circumstances should you beg him, ask him why or ask him again!

It’s really not that big a deal so to hell with social expectations. If a man likes a woman, he asks her out. So if the woman thinks he’s hot, she can ask him out too!

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