How To Win Over That BBW Lady With Your First Email

By Radhika | 10-Nov-08 in Dating
Radhika

Online dating can get very frustrating if you find yourself spending hours sending out emails and receiving no replies in return. Maybe you’re doing something wrong? Here are some tips to get you started on writing an introductory email to win over a BBW lady.


  1. Stand Out from the Crowd

Write a unique email that will stand out from all the other emails that will flood their inbox. Consider this:


Hi. How are you? Would you like to chat?
Vs
So if you’re thinking of my baby, it don’t matter if you’re black or white”.
Yes. I love Michael Jackson too…


While the first one is very generic, the second one is not only unique, but also shows the other person that you’ve actually read through their profile.


  1. Know Them Before You Know Them

The next pointer therefore is to read through the person’s profile well. If they’ve already mentioned they are a teacher, asking what they do for a living seems pretty redundant doesn’t it? Instead develop a conversation from the information on their profile. “So you’re a dance teacher? What sort of dance do you teach” is a better way to ask them more about what they do. When you read the profile well, you not only have a better chance of writing an appealing and unique email; but you also show them that you’re genuinely interested in them and would like to know more.


  1. Ask Instead of Telling

Sure you want to tell the BBW lady all about you and why you think you’re perfect for her. But instead start by asking them interesting questions about themselves. Draw on information displayed on their profile to ask interesting and thoughtful questions. Again, questions will show that you’re interested in getting to know them.



    Email writing advice for guys and girls.


  1. Get to the Point

No one likes reading a long-winded email especially when it’s from a stranger. So apart from being unique, you also need to get your message across without boring them.

Hi. How are you? I saw your profile on BBWCupid.com and I would love to get to know you. I think you’re the most amazing person on the site….” blah blah blah is just boring. You need to give the other person a reason to reply and just filling it with pointless text doesn’t give them any information about you, nor does it say why you’re interested in them.


  1. Flirt and Be Confident

Don’t be afraid to be slightly flirty. After all, you are on an online dating site, so the whole point is to find a date. But please know the difference between flirty and creepy – it can sometimes be a very thin line.


Flirt with that BBW Lady
photo by anniewong

Also, exude confidence even if you don’t necessarily feel it. There’s no point writing a great email and ending it with something like “I understand if you’re not interested. Hope you find a better person”. That just ruins it. If you’re so sure of being rejected, why should the other person be interested in you anyway?


  1. Simple Does The Trick

Using flowery, poetic or complicated language can be a put-off in the first email. Keep the language simple. The best idea would be to write an email in a natural conversational tone, so it doesn’t come across as formal. Also, avoid too much of internet language like “lol” or “ttyl” and emoticons. Not everyone is conversant with it and it might just irritate the other person.


  1. No Pressure

Don’t be forceful in the email and behave as though they have to check out your profile. Saying “You’re never going to find a better looking man!” isn’t the most charming way to introduce yourself. Your arrogance could be what turns them off.

On the other hand, don’t be desperate either. Just sending a one-line email saying “Hi. Can I have your email” or “Hi. Would you like to meet?” makes you sound desperate and at the same time the receiver also feels like you’re putting pressure on them even before you get to know them.



It’s not that difficult really. Think about the sort of email that would appeal to you. Would you rather read a personalized email or just a generic one-liner that is obviously being sent to almost everyone on the site? Just a little thought and effort can go a long way in writing a great introductory email.


Good Luck!

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