Remember that line from Sex and the City where Charlotte says “All women really want is to be rescued”? And Miranda, Carrie and Samantha just nodded their heads in agreement. No matter how ambitious, career savvy, successful or independent – when it comes to love, does a woman always think in terms of fairytales?
These are some of the common love and dating myths women believe in:
Love Will Rescue Me
Yes Richard Gere rescues Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman and Shrek rescues Fiona from “the highest room of the tallest tower” and yes even Snow White, Cinderella, Rapunzel etc were “rescued” by their Princes Charming. But living your life waiting for lover boy to sweep you off your feet and solve all your problems for you is a bit too much don’t you think?
Your life isn’t automatically going to magically transform if you find a man. But may be you will find a man if you start making some changes?
The Perfect Man
Okay I’m sorry to burst your bubble but there really is no such thing as a ”perfect” man. Rejecting every man you meet because he has some flaws is just plain stupid. Everyone has flaws, even you; so don’t expect your man to be perfect. Once you realize this, you’ll notice that men aren’t so bad and finding “The One” might become a whole lot easier. He doesn’t have to be perfect but he could be perfect for you.
The Happily Ever After
A happily ever after doesn’t mean there are no conflicts or arguments or problems. Every couple faces some issues at one point or another, but you just deal with it and go on being happy. Expecting to be happy 24/7 and dumping a guy just because you had one fight is a little loco sweetheart. Expect a few conflicts…they keep a relationship strong.
Every relationship needs a bit of work to get to your own happily every after. Be prepared to invest some time instead of expecting things to be perfect from beginning to end.
“The Longer We’re Together…
…the more the chances of him asking me to marry him.” This isn’t always true you know. A man can be with a woman for a couple of years and still not think of getting married. So don’t start planning baby names in your head yet because your man might not be ready for the M word yet.
Men Don’t Like Independent Women
Okay…seriously. You did realize the times have changed didn’t you? Yes its true men like to “take care” of their women but not all the time. He will appreciate you for being independent; and a smart, successful confident woman is definitely attractive. If you want equality in a relationship yet behave like a clingy kid all the time, you’re obviously not sure what you want. Being your own person can never come in the way of being in love.
Yes we all want a perfect man and a perfect life and it’s not really impossible. You can make your own unique fairytale or romantic comedy (whichever you prefer!)…just as long as you know some expectations are better left in the fantasy world. Here’s to your happily ever after.
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