Can you be fat and happy or is thin the only way to go in our pursuit of happiness?
Don’t look at me! I have no magic pearls of wisdom to impart today!
I read this last night and I thought I would share it with you and ask you for your thoughts. Two women debate whether you can really be happy when you’re overweight. Excerpts from their argument follow.
Laura Ellis, 28:
“[…] I started putting on weight when I went on the pill at 18.
I tried everything to shift it: WeightWatchers, SlimFast milkshakes, even diet pills from my GP, but nothing ever worked.
I was desperately unhappy and used to hate going out. […]
[…] I can’t believe I wasted so much of my life being unhappy about my size.
Now I eat more healthily because I’m happy, and I walk everywhere so I know I’m fit, too.
I truly believe this is the weight I’m meant to be.”
Georgia Foster, 38:
“If there was a pill that shrunk you to a size 12, every overweight woman would take it.
They only pretend to be happy to protect themselves.
I should know – I struggled with my size for 16 years, and it wasn’t until I admitted how unhappy I was that I lost weight.
[…] Nobody wants to be overweight.
I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.”
I’m sure there will be varied responses to this and I don’t know what the right answer should be. To lose weight or not to is a personal decision, and we could debate that forever.
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Starving yourself to death to become an anorexic bag of bones isn’t healthy but then neither is letting yourself go to an extent where your obesity is classified as “morbid”. Weight issues are always tricky, and it’s very hard to find a middle path sometimes. I believe that healthiness is more important than weight; and if you’re healthy, you can be happy no matter how much you weigh.
But I’d love to know what your opinions are. Are we really happy with our bodies like Laura insists you can be, without craving to be thinner all the time? Or do we just accept being fat as our destiny and assume this acceptance to be happiness? Are we unhappy like Georgia suggests and always praying for a magic solution?
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I am very skinny and also a transgender person (i.e. a man in my head but with a woman's body. In my experience the majority of people are not attracted to skinny bodies, and big woman are usually what most men seem to fantasise about. I certainly find big women extremely attractive and if there are any big women out there that like skinny bodies please let me know. I am not anorexic by the way, it's just the way I am. Nina
I can really relate to what Laura said. I used to have similar feelings, but I have recently become very comfortable and happy with exactly who I am. I'm think having a few men show genuine interest in me has helped a little too :)
Can someonr just befriend me please.I mean fat or skinny,it is life.C'mon let's get past the history of fatty and skinny and accept us for what is real and human.What the docs say may be true ,though on the contrary the fat is a fact of life also ,so i accept you for what works out well.Ha ha ha ha.
I think no matter what shape or size you are or have been for the majority of your life, it is a life journey of evenutally coming to a point where you are comfortable with the person you are (inside and out) and happy in your own skin. I've been in all stages of fat and thin(ish) all my life and yes peoples (including well meaning family) comments about my weight haven't always been pleasant, but I've finally learnt that this is me and this is the way I am. It's not to say that I've just resolved myself to the fact that I'm a fatty but it's more that I've found the person that I want to be, I've had a fairly happy and content life (even with the usual ups and downs), and I've done most things that I've wanted to. So many thin people are under such unwarranted misconceptions about fatty's - theyre ugly, dumb, cant do anything physical, cant keep up and the list goes on. I would challenge any thin person to see how dumb I am or not able to do physical activity etc... I may not win, but I'd give it my all to finish or achieve. Being thin does not automatically mean you're physically fit or smart or attractive! I truly hope we're not all under THAT misconception.
i hate the word fat!! im attacted to 'fat' women!!1 does that mean there is something wrong with me??? NO- i just prefer a real woman more curves=more sexy