It’s been two days since the last date; you’re freaking out and all everyone around you hears is “Why hasn’t he called?!” This one really bothers women everywhere. Why don’t men just call? Don’t they know they’re supposed to call…even if it is to let you know they’re not going to call again?
Funnily enough, the guys also have their own set of rules and logical reasons to go by. Here they reveal the logic that goes behind the not-calling.
- The Reason: He’s Not Interested
This is the most obvious reason for not calling.
The Logic: If the guy doesn’t want to take you out anymore, he will usually just stop calling. Apparently in the minds of boys that is universal code for “I’m not interested in you”.
The Advice: Ladies, if the dates are lukewarm to start out with and he doesn’t call after, this is probably the answer.
- The Reason: He’s Waiting for You
This is a confusing one, but apparently a lot of guys expect it.
The Logic: Well, some guys obviously have no idea of tradition so they believe it’s okay to wait for the girl to call. Some even say “Call me” at the end of a date to avoid confusion.
The Advice: Tough one! I suppose it would be okay to be call if he specifically mentions it at the end of a date. Otherwise, if you really think you should initiate communication, maybe send him a text message instead? I’m still old-fashioned I guess…I believe the guy should call!
- The Reason: He’s Confused
He’s not sure if he likes you or not!
The Logic: He doesn’t want to call until he’s absolutely sure he likes you enough to see you again!
The Advice: If he’s confused and you don’t get a call, it’s probably best. Why would you want to keep going out with someone who isn’t sure he wants to be there in the first place.
- The Reason: He’s Been Told to Wait
Guys believe waiting a while before calling is the right thing to do!
The Logic: Self-help books insist a guy should wait anything between 2days to 2 weeks to call a girl. Even the guy’s friends insist he should wait it out so as not to look desperate. Guys don’t like to call immediately because they believe it will create some anticipation
The Advice: Ladies, give them some time to call before you move on. It’s hard for him to because there’s more pressure on him. So if he calls 5 days after a date, don’t give him a hard time. He’s probably been stressing about it too.
Some Tips:
- If a guy doesn’t call for ages and then calls, it’s confusing. My best advice would be to take it easy and see if he gives you a reason for not calling. He’s probably realised he’s interested and so called you. But don’t give him a hard time if you really like him anyway.
- If a guy doesn’t bother calling you and you run into him, the best thing to do would be to play it cool. Don’t demand a reason for him not calling. Be polite and move on.
- Some guys are choosing to send emails or text messages instead of calling. It might seem strange but I guess you could go along with it. But if it goes along for a bit, maybe drop a hint that you’d like him to call.
It’s confusing and there’s probably never any right answer. Who makes the rules? Why is it that the guys have to call? Why can’t a girl call? How long should you wait before you move on? Why? How? Who? When? So many questions….and I admit I don’t have a magic solution but hopefully these tips helped.
Guys do you have any tips that would help the girls understand your logic better?
Girls, anymore tips that could help a girl when she’s tearing her out waiting for the guy to call?
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that i have has been told to wait is the one i got drilled into me by so-called experts. but on the other hand i dont want to be a pest. so if we both had fun. so should i call the very next day or what?