BBW Dating: Topics To Steer Clear Of On A First Date

By Radhika | 07-Oct-12 in Dating
Radhika
Ever gone for a first date and your date brings up something so ridiculous that you instantly know it’s never going to happen...there’s never going to be a second date? Many of us have been there. Going for a first date is always nerve wracking and to fill in the awkward silence some people tend to just start babbling about anything and everything. However, if you want there to be a second date, here are a few topics you might want to steer clear of so as not to scare off your date.


Your Ex

This always seems like a good point of conversation as both of you are single for a reason but avoid talking about your ex. Ladies, he doesn’t need to hear how macho your ex-boyfriend was or how bitter you are with your ex, this only portrays you as still attached to him and not yet ready to move on. Doesn’t matter if it’s something positive, just avoid bringing up your ex. Your attention should be focused on your current date.

Alternative: Ask your date how they prefer to spend their weekends; discuss hobbies.


Politics & Religion

This is always a very sticky and sensitive topic and its best to avoid it. This is only the first date and you do not know this person very well to know what religion they practice (if any), so you need to be careful so as not to offend them. People are usually very passionate and defensive about the political and religious preferences so steer clear of this topic to avoid a showdown.

Alternative: What’s your favorite place in the entire world or favorite vacation destination?


Money or Financial Achievements

Avoid talking about money on your first date at all costs. Constantly asking your date how much they make might portray you as either a gold digger or superficial and very materialistic. Also don't start bragging about your financial achievements in front of your date, this might just put them off an just portray you as a show off.

Alternative: Ask your date about their family. Any brothers or sisters?


Marriage & Kids


This often applies to women; unless you are trying to run him off, steer clear of the marriage topic or how many kids you want. Save that for perhaps the 3rd or 4th date. You don’t want to chase him away with such discussions too early on. You just met him so don’t start planning your life with him.

Alternative: Ask about their current job or their dream job?


Sex /Sexual Escapades

This is probably the most uncomfortable topic you can bring up on a first date. Asking your date questions like “What's your "number"? Or asking about “their first’. This topic is too intimate for a first date as you hardly know each other to start discussing such issues.

Alternative: How old were you when you had your first crush?


Most importantly, first dates shouldn't be a nightmare - just enjoy it and let the conversation flow naturally.


Want to add to the list? Feel free to share with us some of the topics that you think are a no-no for a first date.

(3 Comments)

I find guys start talking about sex even before they ask you on a date!! It gets very dull!!

I do not like a guy to ask about my personal attributes such as breast size before we even make it to first date. It makes them look like scary perverts and also of course really uninterested in a serious connection.

what really gets me, they have no pics posted, but yet they want you to believe they are ur perfect match, or want you to cam, then strip maked...what happened to the old ways...dinner,talking,waling, or a simple phone call to find out more about you.

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